Life Lessons from the Youngest Person to Travel to Every Country | Lexie Alford | TEDxKlagenfurt


Translator: Vân Thùy
Reviewer: Yu Xie We are having the wrong conversation
about our comfort zone. The phrase “getting out
of your comfort zone” is thrown around so much today
online and in motivational quotes that it’s begun to lose its meaning. And this is because
we don’t clearly understand what our comfort zone is, and it seems counterintuitive to leave it because it’s where we feel the most safe. It also sounds like
we’re sugar-coating something that we don’t want to talk about, which is fear. Let me tell you a bit more about my story
and how fear has played a role in it. I come from a family of travelers. My mom started a travel agency
when she was younger than I am now, and growing up they never left me behind
when they went on their adventures. I graduated early and got a degree
from community college by the time I turned 18. And at that time I had traveled
to around 70 countries. This was the point in my life where people began to ask me the most intimidating question
that you can ask a young person: “What are you going to do next?” And in attempt to answer that question, I began by asking myself
what I was most passionate about, which has always been travelling, and how to make the most
out of the cards that I was dealt, which was how much
travel experience I’ve had at my age. That’s when it dawned on me. I had over six years
to break the world record for the youngest person
to travel to every country. And this was the perfect opportunity
that I was looking for to get out of the books
and into the real world. In retrospect, I had no idea
what I was getting myself into. Flash-forward two and a half years later,
and I spent countless hours crammed on planes, trains,
chicken buses, tuk-tuks and junk boats travelling with nothing but a backpack. I have encountered health issues,
spanning from malaria in West Africa to hospital-worthy
food poisoning in Pakistan. I learned how to cope with
public anxiety attacks by myself in foreign countries, and I endured the brain-sizzling
frustration of dealing with bureaucrats from every country that requires a visa. Believe it or not, these have been
some of my most treasured memories because they were the most
defining moments of my life, spent far, far away from my comfort zone. Proving to Guiness World Records
that I have traveled to every country was a completely different story. According to a very strict
pack of guidelines, I’m required to submit
everything from plane tickets to accommodation and taxi receipts, to multiple witness statements
from each country. I struggled to find
two people in each country that spoke, read and wrote in English that would be willing
to help me with my witness statements. I had to plead with immigration
officers at every border to please stamp my passport
with enough ink, to be able to read the name and the date
on the passport stamp. I am now in the process of submitting
nearly 10,000 pieces of evidence in chronological order, documenting how I entered
and exited each country, along with a detailed itinerary
of what I did in each place. Beyond this very overwhelming
amount of paperwork, somewhere along this journey, I discovered that there was
more than one element of my comfort zone that I was going to have to get out of
to get to where I wanted to go. I now believe that there is a correlation
between our comfort zone and our mind, body and soul. If you know that
you have fears in general, knowing exactly where
those fears are stemming from is the first step towards overcoming them. I personally have a few
very distinct fears. I am afraid of heights, which stems
from my physical comfort zone. I have – I had a fear of being alone, which was completely
controlled by my mind. And I also am terrified of regret,
which comes straight from my soul. The reason why so many people are unsuccessful at getting
out of their comfort zone is because our comfort zone
is not just one thing. It’s three. The first is obvious,
our physical comfort zone. Naturally, what we fear most is death. We’re evolutionarily wired to avoid
situations where we could get hurt. And that’s why every cell
in my body was screaming when I was standing on the edge
of a 750-foot drop in Switzerland. The opportunity came up to bungee jump off of the third highest
platform in the world, and being someone that was
always too afraid to jump off of rocks into the water at the river, this was by far my greatest fear, and the idea of facing it head-on excited me just as much
as it terrified me. When they strapped in my ankles
and perched me on the edge, I was shaking. Three … Two … One … I plunged into seven and a half seconds of the most intense sensory overload
I had ever experienced. Complete terror turned into utter euphoria and resulted in one of the most
significant moments of my life. In that moment, I realized that I was
capable of pushing my body’s limits and that it’s something
that’s actually worth doing. I realized what was possible and became instantly hooked
on the rush of having new experiences. Little did I know at the time
that facing my biggest fear was what would ultimately lead me to
travelling to every country in the world, and out of 196 countries, I have only found myself
in real, physical danger one time. I traveled to Yemen as a photographer
for a Norwegian author who was writing a book about
the least visited countries in the world. On our last night in the country, I woke up to the sound of gunshots
outside of my hotel. I jumped out of bed and ran to the window to see that there were 50 or so men
congregated in the parking lot, yelling and pushing each other around, with six cars with flashing headlights blocking the only exit. With no security in sight, I grabbed my phone
to call my contact in the country, who didn’t answer because this was happening
around 2:00 in the morning. I could hear voices
outside of my hotel room even though I knew that we were
the only people staying in the hotel. That was the first time I had ever heard
a fully automatic weapon discharged. I literally ducked
and looked around the room realistically looking
for the best place to hide. In that moment,
there was nothing I could do but sit with my fear
of potentially being kidnapped, until eventually, all the men disappeared, and I could cry myself to sleep
after the adrenaline wore off. The next morning, I called –
I talked to my contact in the country and asked him what had happened
the night before. He responded with, “Oh, that? That was just a wedding party.” (Laughter) Since Yemen is an Islamic country, they do not drink alcohol, and one of the ways
that they celebrate is by shooting guns. Basically, what this means is the this scariest thing that
has ever happened to me while travelling was only scary because
I didn’t fully understand the culture. The fun didn’t stop there. Getting out of the comfort zone
that I had created around myself mentally would prove to be
an even greater challenge and would require me to develop an entirely different aspect
of my character. We are creatures of habit. We are most comfortable with things
we can easily understand and predict. We fill our lives with routines. We wake up, go to class or work, eat our meals, maybe work out and go to sleep
at basically the same times every day. We surround ourselves with the same
stable relationships for years. We try so hard to live up
to other people’s expectations of us that sometimes we let our passions
take the back seat because ultimately we don’t want
to become isolated from our society. After I traveled to the first
hundred or so countries, the destinations became
more and more obscure, and I stopped being able to talk
my friends and family into coming with me. If you’ve never traveled for an extended
period of time by yourself before, it might be hard to imagine
what it’s like to spend days in transit on airplanes, in airports, just to end up in an empty hotel room
by yourself at the end of the night. After months of this for me, it resulted in intense loneliness, which was something
I didn’t even realize I feared because I had been sheltered
from it my whole life. At the peak of my time spent alone, I found myself in the tiny
island nation of Tuvalu, in the south Pacific with a population
of only 11,000 people. I spent four days
in the capital, Funafuti, because that’s how often
flights go in and out of the country. There was no Wi-Fi, no cell reception, no connection to the outside world
whatsoever other than a small post office, which happened to also be the country’s
number one tourist attraction. When I thought that I would be spending
my time in Tuvalu completely alone and without any distraction, I noticed the only
other foreigner on the island. She was a kindergarten teacher
from the South Side of Chicago who also happened to be travelling
to every country. We bonded so quickly and deeply
over all of our shared experiences that we ended up going
from complete strangers to travelling to Fiji, Tonga, Chad,
Central African Republic and Saudi Arabia together. From the seven and a half months I spent travelling alone
to 50 or so countries, I learned how to be alone
without being lonely, and this did wonders
for my self-confidence, but it also completely changed the way
that I think about the people in my life. Now I have an appreciation
for the time that I get to spend with the people that I care about the most
in a way that I used to take for granted, before I knew what it was
truly like to be alone. I also discovered that we have
so much more in common with people around the world
than you may think, because ultimately
we all want the same things, which is why at the root of our spiritual comfort zone, the layer closest to our souls, we are all looking for fulfillment. We are afraid to leave
the safety of our routine to pursue something greater because of our fear of failure. I set myself up for a goal with
a very realistic potential for failure, not because my family wanted me to or because it was easy but because I knew that I would regret it
for the rest of my life if I didn’t try. And now, I make the majority
of decisions in my life based on the answer
to a very simple question: “Will I regret not doing this?” If the answer is “Yes,” I know
that I have a moral obligation to myself and the people around me to do it, even if that means jumping
off of a 750-foot dam or spending seven months alone or giving a talk in front of strangers. Being in a state of comfort itself
is freedom from pain, but when we subject ourselves
to genuine discomfort, and plunge into the unknown, that’s when we learn to transcend
the layers of our comfort zone, manage our fears,
and become empowered by them. Ask yourselves: How uncomfortable
are you willing to become in order to reach your fullest potential? Thank you. (Applause) (Cheers)

100 Replies to “Life Lessons from the Youngest Person to Travel to Every Country | Lexie Alford | TEDxKlagenfurt

  1. I see a lot of jealous, resentful people in the comments. We get it, you’re poor and don’t have the time or resources to travel. But maybe you should listen to her message more deeply because your routines and comfort zones are probably what keep you poor in the first place. I’m not rich by any means, but I will not whine and complain about people who are brazen enough to make a living off of traveling or people who create their own business, earn loads of money, and as a consequence have the time and resources to travel. ✈️

  2. I don't know why anyone even cares that she travelled all the countries, it doesn't mean anything. She travelled 196 cities, well done, 1 city in each country. How long she going to brag about it

  3. Wording to define this conversation.
    Comfort zone to Uncomfortable to reach your full potential.
    ✓ Do things, Remove hesitation by asking simple Question that if you wouldn't do this , how much uncomfortable you feel? Would you regret ?

  4. This comments section is basically just miserable people complaining about not having enough money.

    If you are from a developing country, then money and visa issues are legitimate obstacles to a certain extent. But if you are from a first world country, then you probably have no excuse.

    Travel is not as expensive as people make it out to be (unless your idea of travel is just staying in 5-star hotels in London). South/Southeast Asia, Central America, Africa, and eastern Europe are cheap. The most expensive part is the flight. After that, if you're really trying to save money, in many countries you can find hostels for $4/night and meals for $1-2. Or if that's too much for you, you can couchsurf or volunteer at a hostel for free accommodation. There are also "workaways" where you volunteer in exchange for free accommodation and food (eg. farming in New Zealand). I spent a couple nights in a remote monastary once where both accommodation and food were free (though in exchange you have to live like a monk).

    So say you're volunteering at a hostel (or couchsurfing) in Thailand and spending $4/day on food. Let's add $2/day on random miscellaneous expenses just to be conservative. That's $180/month.

    If you're from a first world country, that's like half a week's wages working a minimum-wage job. If you live with your family (yes not many people have this privilege, I get it), then you should be able to save most of this income.

    Can everyone afford to travel to all 196 countries? Well that's a different story. But as someone who's been traveling the last 1.5 years, I'd rather spend 3 months getting a deep understanding of one country and it's culture/people than spending a couple days visiting tourist attractions in the capital city of 6 different countries (especially if they're all very similar to each other). Knowing the language also makes a huge difference (when English proficiency is low) – your experience in South/Central America is going to be much richer if you actually speak Spanish (or Portuguese) and make an effort to meet locals and learn about their culture.

    So no need to feel FOMO here because checking countries off like a checklist isn't as fun as you might think. I started off my travels going relatively quickly from country to country, but now I prefer to take it slowly because I'd rather get a deeper experience. If you come from a developing country and don't have any extraneous circumstances, money is not an excuse. You just don't care enough to put in the work and do what it takes to make it work.

  5. But people like us in 3rd world country cant even dream about it with our weak passport and weak currency😭😭😭😭

  6. Guys, this talk is cool, but it was not cool imagining the carbon footprint you are leaving behind for traveling to every country there is: the flights, the use of plastic bottles, the amount of disposables is just daunting, buses, hotel's plastic wrappings… Shouldn't we rethink our records?

  7. Me: youngest person to travel all countries!?! I'm barely 21, I should get started and beat her record. We'll see about that.
    Also Me: realizes she is 21 too
    Sadly Me: I've done nothing with my life😅 lol.

  8. haha, her voice reminds of a SNL skit where Charlize Theron was playing a lawyer in a courtroom who happened to be a former Beauty Queen pageant contestant that kept saying, "Such as…"

  9. If not your Dad, imagine you'll be giving this speech!!
    You get the privilege! Be grateful.
    Stay bless poor people like me!

  10. I think it's different traveling by yourself if your a woman rather than a man. I traveled to 29 countries in a year and was rarely alone because you always meet other travelers. It's harder for a women because she has to look out for her safety.

  11. I would have traveled every country when I was 16 if I was rich… so many people would have. Money stops so many people from living out their dreams.

  12. I think the key to fully appreciating this speech is realizing that each of our comfort zones are different and no matter our circumstances we each can do something that challenges our comfort zone. It may be going to uni when you are the first in your family to do so, it may be undergoing a surgery that you’re afraid of but may help you, it may be taking a job or learning something you never thought you would. My favourite part of the speech was always consider whether you will regret not doing something – that could be something big like not traveling but it could also be something smaller like not smiling at the server at a restaurant. Either way the principle holds. I think the focus shouldn’t be whether we all could travel to every country but how we can implement the lessons she learned along the way into our own lives.

  13. Some of the comments are just 🤦‍♂️

    Money aint all the answer my dudes – You will need mindset about everything else either to be able to do something. Many of us just dont know the danger/anxiety what it means to travel to such a foreign nation that had a bad record.

    Resources + Self = Cant Happen
    Mindset + Self + Resources = Can make It Happen

    Love,

    Tom

  14. Seems to me that it was just about the guinness world record and not about connecting with people and learning about their culture… pointless…

  15. Why is she getting so much criticism? If you're lucky enough to live in a developed country and have the means to travel, she should take advantage of it, as she did.

  16. A white girl named Lexie that has been on every country in the world talking about getting out of your confort zone…how much of a cliche is this

  17. It's not about how she grew up, or all the advantages she's had that allowed her to break this record. What's incredible to me is that she recognized these advantages she had and started reaching for this goal that was possible, but still crazy! And she did it. There are so many people in her position that don't make the most of their situations, and look at all she's done. Congrats Lexie!

  18. This girl's parents own a travel agency. This entire "Youngest Person to Travel to Every Country" is a huge marketing ploy by her parents. Why she is getting so much fame is beyond reason…

  19. To all of you good people saying that you can't afford traveling. I am a South African and traveling has been my dream ever since I was a child (traveling is excruciatingly expensive coming from a third world country, where the minimum pay is about 330$ per month). I want to share my story with you, hoping to inspire a few young people out there. So I did not grow up in a poor family, but my dad was retrenched when I was in primary school and long story short, we started struggling financially, lost our house and had to sell most of our stuff and my parents got divorced.
    Since then my mother raised me on her own. The amazing woman that she is, she send me to university, not knowing how she was going to be able to afford it (I studied winemaking). My mother had to ask her boss for money, spinning the story that one day I was going to be a winemaker at a well know wine estate and she promised that I would repay him with fine wine (see she couldn't get a lone at a bank since she had no assists). So after one year I applied for a bursary, which ended up covering all of my university needs. In my 4th year I had the opportunity to go to Switzerland and Spain in order to learn about their wine in a all expenses paid class trip (we as a class, together with our lecturers raised all the money from industry and friends and having a online fundraiser). At the moment I am busy with my post grad studies where I just got back from a month in Sweden to collaborate with a university for my project. The trip was completely paid for by the two universities. Included in the payment was a day fair, which since I spend wisely, was enough to bring some back. I am saving this money for my next travel ticket! So I am almost done with my studies and will be doing some harvests abroad to continue my travels. This way, I can earn money and gain experience, all while traveling!
    I have so many friends that has been struggling with money their whole lives, but they spend any bit they have on Friday nights out, saying it is the only pleasure they have. They spend it on unnecessary items like, brand name clothes and expensive phones, while they eat two minute noodles for dinner, because they have no money for food. I know families that struggle to make ends meat, but have five children. It kills me to know that not one of those five children will have a proper education and quality life all because of their parents bad decisions.
    What I am trying to say is that every decision we make will either get us closer to our goal, or set us up for failure. My mother made a decision to only have two children, she made a decision to send me to university, knowing that it might cost her everything, but it will provide me the opportunity to travel if it works out. She made the decision to swallow her pride and ask for help in making her daughters dreams come true. I made the decision to follow a career path that opens up the world for me. I made the decision to continue my studies and not start earning money as soon as possible and start a family right a way. Now I will be taking a leap of faith to travel to unknown places, experiencing unknown things and unknown cultures, only knowing that I have enough money to get me there and trusting that the rest will work it's self out. All towards my dream of learning more and seeing the world. I might fail, I might succeed, but what I do know for certain is I will regret it if I don't try.
    So no you don't need tons of money to travel, you need money to have a vacation, traveling does not necessarily mean having a very expensive vacation somewhere far away. To me traveling is learning new things with new people, in new places, while earing like a local and living like a local. We are privileged enough to be in an age where local people are keen on hosting foreigners, if they have something exciting and valuable to bring to the table. All we need is a keen focus to get to our goals and a willingness to ask for opportunities, but most of all the courage to say yes to those opportunities!

  20. MuM lady. You are talking about opportunities given to you naturally since u born… come on,, Tedx is for people who struggle and find ways going through it and got what they want in life..and we are here to learn and try their ways… a place for adventure story like yours, is movies 🎥,, Not Tedx,,, 😏😌😁I only got depression from your story not motivation as suppose to be!!

  21. life lessons from a rich privileged girl who traveled to every country. LOL. NOT INSPIRED AND NOT IMPRESSED.

  22. "Since Yemen is an islamic country, they don't have to alcohol and one of the ways they celebrate is by shooting guns "

  23. Did anyone else click on this to see how old she was so that they could’ve if they could beat her? No, ok just me…

  24. Im surprised that ONCE the countries started to be more problematic to visit or just more dangerous and stuff, thats when family and friends stopped travelling with her cuz thats when I thought people would wanna join so shes not alone and I personally would want someone with me

  25. Why is everyone blaming her for being rich , everyone might like to travel and tell that money is only constraint , it needs courage too that to travel alone just imagine if your travel was funded to say syria or north korea, i think many would back out on that opportunity

  26. I hate to be this person but it's kind of unfair to talk about the bureaucracy of obtaining visas when having an American passport can get you into 166 countries without a visa. That's 166 out of 195 -__-

  27. “Will I regret not doing this?” Is the six words i never knew i needed this moment of my life. Thanks for inspiring us all! 💕

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